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My mom just found out today that she has breast cancer. How can me and my family support her in every way possible?

Sam Alfaro Profile
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anonymous

Learning About Breast Cancer over 8 years
 
  • Shelley Zipp Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    Sam, I'm sorry about your mom. I too have been recent diagnosed with breast cancer. Although all breast cancers are not alike ( I had a lumptectomy and lymph nodes removed, 1 node cancerous, and the surgeon removed all of the cancer and still have to go through chemo), the diagnosis is still shocking. Luckily, even if its Stage II, or a large tumor, lots of women have survived worse scenarios than mine over the past decade or so. Continue, like my family did for me, to give her TLC, support and prayers. Accompany her to her dr's appts. It helps to have another body or 2 present, be it either friend or relative to ask questions and take notes. Especially important to have someone there because all the information you get is very overwhelming, and you or someone else might think of questions your mom hasn't thought of. Having a positive attitude helps too! Best wishes to you and your family.
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  • Ali S Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2011
    Just be there...sometimes she will be in good spirits, sometimes she'll need to cry. When she does, she needs compassion, not advice (I.e. If she says she's scared, don't minimalize it by saying everything will be fine or to think positive b/c frankly, we don't want to think positively. Instead, say something like, I'm sure this is scary for you and I'm here for you). Set up a plan for family members to go to all appointments with her. Help her tell people b/c that can be overwhelming. Cook, clean, do laundry. See if neighbors/friends can set up a calendar to prepare meals, visit. Take her out when she's feeling good so it's not always about the cancer--and make het laugh! It sounds like she has a strong support group with you and your family ... That is crucial. I'll be thinking of you
    over 8 years Flag
    • Sam Alfaro Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Thank you so much :) I'll do my best to show her how much I love her and I'll take every advice that you have given me.

      over 8 years Flag
    • Ali S Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2011

      There are some good books out there too, specifically for caretakers, family members, etc.

      My best,
      Ali

      over 8 years Flag
  • anonymous Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2006
    Hi Sam please know that you and your family are nor in this alone . Please let your Mother know that her Sisters Of Hope will be praying for her as she begins this journey. Sisters of Hope is my own definition of all women that have been diagnosed with Breast Cancer However to answer your question the best support that I recommend only because it is what my family did for me when I went through my journey. Attend all medical appointments chemotherapy radiation etc if needed. Take a journal or recorder to take notes of what the Dr. will share with her she will not remember half of the things that the Dr will be saying doing her medical visit and once she gets home she will want to ask questions as to what was discussed. If you or your Mom does not understand some of the medical terminology that the Dr is discussing please ask him/her to break it down in layman terms never leave an appointment not fully understanding what was discussed. Continue to give her plenty of TLC as this diagnoses can really effect her mentally and physically . Having my family and or friends to talk to or be with me was extremely relaxing and gave me such a feeling of peace and Hope to fight this battle 100%. Also try to educate yourself once you find out what type of breast cancer your mother has been diagnosed with. Especially Since all breast cancers are not the same. Lastly not only will this be tough on your Mom but it will also effect her family and caregivers supports each other pray together and know thar God makes no mistakes. Your Mom was chosen for a reason and I know one day she too will make a difference by helping other women that will be diagnosed. Stay encouraged keep the faith and many blessings to your mother and her family!!!
    over 8 years Comment Flag

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