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My mom was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer yesterday and im wondering if i should tell my 5 and 6 year old kids?

Marylou Montalvo Profile
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Family Member or Loved One over 7 years
 
  • Jk Joyce Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2012
    I would not go into details but just tell them she is very sick and that God will take care of her. Let them know she still loves them but may not feel like being with them at times. If she has chemo just tell them that her hair may all come out but the medicine that is going to help her does that and it will grow back later. Tell them they can go buy her a pretty new scarf to wear. They will understand. I believe God helps children understand these things.
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  • Mary Foti Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2010
    Unfortunately my mom and I both have had breast cancer and my mom is now stage 4. My sons were 11 and 9 at the time I was diagnosed in 2010. I answered all their questions but did not elaborate. I told them I had the same problem grandma had and I needed surgery and medicine to help. I am honest with them but careful with my words - for example, when my older son asked if I might die, I said "some people do die from cancer, but many people don't. My doctors and I are going to do everything we can to keep me well."
    over 7 years Flag
    • Diane Washington Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2012

      Yes kids sense things and are smarter than we give them credit for. Don't deceive them just case things don't go well. I told my daughter who had just lost her great granny a week before I was diagnosed . I can't promise you I want die but I...

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      Yes kids sense things and are smarter than we give them credit for. Don't deceive them just case things don't go well. I told my daughter who had just lost her great granny a week before I was diagnosed . I can't promise you I want die but I promise you I will fight to live.

      over 7 years Flag
  • blair greiner Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    I also had stage 3 and currently going through chemo. I have a 2 and 4 year old. Since I have boys we all shaved our heads for the summer. I wanted them to see my head shaving so they understood that it was just a haircut. Since I had a bilateral mastectomy I showed them my drains etc so they understood why I couldn't lift them or drive. Every morning my 4 yr old would ask to see my "boo boos"so I showed him (really just the drains since I couldnt remove the bra) the more I shared the less confusing it was for them. My guys are too little to get into cancer. We just talk in words of I can't drive today because of my boo boos etc. they are not afraid. Now when we leave the house my son will say things like "mom get your wiglet so we can go" cracks me up!
    over 7 years Comment Flag

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