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Conclusion

 
Conclusion

Chapter: 7 - Conclusion

Subchapter: 1 - Conclusion

The first step down this new road is learning about your diagnosis and treatment options, which you have done by watching Beyond the Shock®. Embarking on this journey requires you to not only be informed, but also to realize that you don’t have to face this alone.

Family, friends, and other breast cancer patients are your shield and safety net, carefully knit together to strengthen you. Alongside them, your triumphs over new hills will be celebrated; your struggles through new valleys endured. They can help you see past the shadows, reminding you that each step–each moment–is precious. Leaning on them for emotional and physical needs isn’t a sign of weakness, but rather a kind of healing for you and for them.

Beyond the Shock® is more than just videos; it is an online community of women around the world who are wrestling with similar emotions, questions, decisions, experiences, and fears.
You can ask questions and give answers. You can watch stories of hope and share your own.

Beyond the shock of breast cancer, there is still life.

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    WHAT CANCER CANNOT DO: Cancer is so limited...It cannot cripple love. It cannot shatter hope. It cannot corrode faith. It cannot destroy peace. It cannot kill friendship. It cannot suppress memories. It cannot silence courage.

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    over 6 years 4 answers
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    • anonymous Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2012

      That's awesome Norma, thanks so much for sharing. Very encouraging!

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    • Renee' OK Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      I love this. Thanks for sharing.

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  • Caroline Foster Caubet Profile

    How do I tell my kids?

    Asked by anonymous

    Survivor since 1996
    about 8 years 7 answers
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    • Caroline Foster Caubet Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 1996

      When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, my daughters were between 16 and 6. What could they hear? Obviously the message could not be the same for each one of them. I spoke to each one individually, without pronouncing the word "cancer". Their questions did come with time and I answered...

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      When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, my daughters were between 16 and 6. What could they hear? Obviously the message could not be the same for each one of them. I spoke to each one individually, without pronouncing the word "cancer". Their questions did come with time and I answered with simple words. What I wanted them to understand was that I was very sick, that I was fighting hard and that there was a pretty good chance that I would win the battle. I tried to give a message of hope. 15 years later, we talk about it and they say they appreciated understanding progressively.

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    • Elise Merchant Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Well ive just turned 12 and my mum was diagnosed on January 05 2011 and i was 11 at the time and she came in and said to me- a soon as she got back from the hospital- Ellie theyve found a lump and so we hugged and then i asked is it cancer and she said it was. i was greatful that she told me...

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      Well ive just turned 12 and my mum was diagnosed on January 05 2011 and i was 11 at the time and she came in and said to me- a soon as she got back from the hospital- Ellie theyve found a lump and so we hugged and then i asked is it cancer and she said it was. i was greatful that she told me straight out that it was and that she was going to be fine :)

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  • Ally Chapis  Profile

    How do I try to cheer my mom up during treatment? What can I do to make her feel better?

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    almost 8 years 5 answers
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    • Sarah Adams Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2010

      I agree with the above...just being there is most important. I have been with both a parent & a sibling during a treatment & right now I am helping my best friend through it. When I am with her (usually the week following treatment, when things are at their worst), I clean the litter box, do the...

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      I agree with the above...just being there is most important. I have been with both a parent & a sibling during a treatment & right now I am helping my best friend through it. When I am with her (usually the week following treatment, when things are at their worst), I clean the litter box, do the dishes, keep her paperwork organized, keep myself educated on her medications so I know what to expect, keep a log of when she has taken medication and when she has eaten (this helps to know when she can take another dose & whatnot), I act as sort of an eager slave to get her water or food or whatever she might want, & I try to make her laugh. I also let her cry & complain without always trying to cheer her up. She needs to get that sadness/pain/frustration out & I don't want her to feel she can't. I validate her feelings & then offer whatever love & support I can. All of this is also a huge help to her fiancé (if your father is also in the house). When he comes home from work, I encourage him to take some time to himself before taking over caring for my friend. And I know helping out around the house really helps relieve stress for him. He also reads to her every night. Which is something anyone can do.

      All of the answers given cover it...just being there makes a huge difference. But I thought I'd offer some ideas of what I've done. :-) My best to you & your family.

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    • Lori A Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      My mom is still going through her treatments and I did her wash, made food and she stayed with me after her surgery.

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  • Sam Alfaro Profile

    My mom just found out today that she has breast cancer. How can me and my family support her in every way possible?

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    over 7 years 3 answers
    • Shelley Zipp Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Sam, I'm sorry about your mom. I too have been recent diagnosed with breast cancer. Although all breast cancers are not alike ( I had a lumptectomy and lymph nodes removed, 1 node cancerous, and the surgeon removed all of the cancer and still have to go through chemo), the diagnosis is still...

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      Sam, I'm sorry about your mom. I too have been recent diagnosed with breast cancer. Although all breast cancers are not alike ( I had a lumptectomy and lymph nodes removed, 1 node cancerous, and the surgeon removed all of the cancer and still have to go through chemo), the diagnosis is still shocking. Luckily, even if its Stage II, or a large tumor, lots of women have survived worse scenarios than mine over the past decade or so. Continue, like my family did for me, to give her TLC, support and prayers. Accompany her to her dr's appts. It helps to have another body or 2 present, be it either friend or relative to ask questions and take notes. Especially important to have someone there because all the information you get is very overwhelming, and you or someone else might think of questions your mom hasn't thought of. Having a positive attitude helps too! Best wishes to you and your family.

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    • Ali S Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2011

      Just be there...sometimes she will be in good spirits, sometimes she'll need to cry. When she does, she needs compassion, not advice (I.e. If she says she's scared, don't minimalize it by saying everything will be fine or to think positive b/c frankly, we don't want to think positively. ...

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      Just be there...sometimes she will be in good spirits, sometimes she'll need to cry. When she does, she needs compassion, not advice (I.e. If she says she's scared, don't minimalize it by saying everything will be fine or to think positive b/c frankly, we don't want to think positively. Instead, say something like, I'm sure this is scary for you and I'm here for you).

      Set up a plan for family members to go to all appointments with her. Help her tell people b/c that can be overwhelming. Cook, clean, do laundry. See if neighbors/friends can set up a calendar to prepare meals, visit.

      Take her out when she's feeling good so it's not always about the cancer--and make het laugh!

      It sounds like she has a strong support group with you and your family ... That is crucial. I'll be thinking of you

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