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My aunt recently got diagnosed with stage three breast cancer. What does this entail and how can I help her?

Angela Kroninger Profile
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Learning About Breast Cancer over 6 years
 
  • Nancy Collins Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2002
    I was diagnosed with Stage III Invasive Lobular BC at 43. She'll have (I opted for mastectomy(ies), to take away as many chances as I could that it would come back, surgery, chemo and radiation. For me the hardest part was losing my hair. Be sure she finds a wig before starting chemo, or bandanas. I hated a wig, but I was going through chemo and radiation during the hottest part of the summer, so I wore bandanas. Just be there for her, tell her if she needs anything to let you know. We need to be as independent as we can, so someone hovering over us (me and the people I've met along the way have felt this way) isn't good. If she wants to talk, listen, but let her bring up the topic of cancer. Try to treat her like you would before her diagnosis, which I know is hard. You feel so helpless, but you just being there for her, is the great gift you can give her. She'll go through a lot of emotions, which she may or may not show around you, but PLEASE never take it personal if she gets snappy. Not only are we scared, but our bodies are going through some major changes. She's lucky to have you!!!
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  • 匿名 Profile
    匿名
    乳癌幸存者从 2007
    When I had the same type of breast cancer, I was living in an isolated rural area. My neighbour was wonderful. I hardly knew her, but she began leaving little packages of home-grown veggies at my door. A friend who lived 2 hours away made several trips to visit and she brought some special yogurt that had extra "healthy bacteria", because I had thrush from the chemo. Another friend who was too far away to visit, sent me a little figurine of one woman with her arm around another. Another friend from my church sent me a greeting card every week to cheer me. My pals from work brought me a gift basket with cozy pajamas, a fluffy throw, and some bath stuff. These are the things that mattered most to me when I was "going through the fire". You could make up some meals and freeze them for her. I could only eat soft food for a while so noodle casseroles or soups might be good. If she needs help with housework you could organize a cleaning bee. Most of all, just be there for her without smothering.
    over 6 years Comment Flag
  • Denise Govoni Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 1991
    Your Aunt will have several options including chemo, radiation, mastectomy, or lumpectomy. The first thing is to decide what she feels is her best option. Listen to her and repect her wishes. Stand by her and help in any way you can, several people have given some terrific ideas for helping her through the tough times. The treaments and the emotional impact can be very difficult. The best thing you and the rest of her family can do is just be there for her, support and understand her. Best wishes to you and your Aunt.
    over 6 years Comment Flag

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