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Has anyone else had problems with painful sex after chemo? I have tried Replens but hasn't helped.

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    anonymous
    Survivor since 2012
    Hi Alison, I 've used Replens everyday for two years(it's that safe) and a gel lubricant for senistive skin for that intimate time. It may be, you'll need more time for healing depending how far out you're from therapy. I didn't have chemo but was post menopause and the Femara has really done a number on me. My new norm can be uncomfortable but I found Breastcancer.org and it's site on sex and intimacy helpful. Hope you find your new comfort zone. Be persistent and don't give up. ;-D Jo
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      Thank you for the site

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      anonymous
      Survivor since 2003

      Thank you for sharing this information Jo. I knew about replens since I had worked in a ob/gyn office remember the doctor advising patients to use it, but had forgotten about it until you mentioned it in your post. Thanks

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      You are so welcome. I know you'll read my post to Alison so I won't repeat myself. I feel really inept talking to someone who worked in a doctor's office but I guess sometimes we don't pay careful attention to some things until they affect us...

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      You are so welcome. I know you'll read my post to Alison so I won't repeat myself. I feel really inept talking to someone who worked in a doctor's office but I guess sometimes we don't pay careful attention to some things until they affect us directly. Hope things work out for you. Jo

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      anonymous
      Survivor since 2003

      Jo the advise you are giving is right on. It is great that you are able to share your experience i did read your post to allison thank you again

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    anonymous
    Survivor since 2010
    Sex was very painful for me after I was thrust into menopause due to chemo. I tried many over the counter lubricants and nothing worked. My oncologist recommended and prescribed an Estring. It took a week to get used to, but it has worked well for me. Don't hesitate to bring this subject up with your doctor. It is a common issue with cancer patients. I was so relieved to find something that worked because after being through so many body changes with breast cancer I really didn't want my sex life to be taken away by cancer, too.
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    anonymous
    Survivor since 2011
    Talk to yor gyno and your doctor. My onc kind of blushed but his nurse was a wealth of information. I'm a very traditional woman(wink wink) experiment I know 1 woman who used olive oil. We women who are estrogen have a tough to road in this atea
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    anonymous
    Survivor since 2012
    I wasn't a canditdate for Estring because I had a stroke in 2000(no residual effects) after 5 Years of hormone replacement therapy-I sometimes wonder if that played a role in my cancer).I then began my second journey into menopause. I am Er positive and I can't see enduring Femara to supress estrogin and having a steady small dose of it even if it is vaginally. Your type of cancer will play a role in selecting the route to your new normal. I know it's a shock and horrible reality to join those of us that have already suffered through menopause once and maybe even twice.Sit down with your onc and have a really open and frank conversation with him. Mine sort of looked surprised when i brought it up then smiled and said what I had been doing was fine and that sex was a good, comforting and healthy thing for patients and their spouses. Good luck. Jo
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      anonymous
      Survivor since 2012

      Thanks Jo. I was ER positive too. So it does limit us. I have only been using Replens every three days. Maybe i need to use it more. I was pre menopause before chemo. Haven't had period since between 1 st & 2nd treatment so i may be in menopause now.

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      Survivor since 2012

      Before cancer, I used it everyday(half of the applicator a day). Now I use a full one a couple of times a week and half of an application the rest of the time. From all my reading, the thinned cells soak up the moisturizer and will begin to plump...

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      Before cancer, I used it everyday(half of the applicator a day). Now I use a full one a couple of times a week and half of an application the rest of the time. From all my reading, the thinned cells soak up the moisturizer and will begin to plump up. It may yield a light brownish or yellow discharge as the old cells sluff off and It may take up to a month for a significant difference. But Replens will still not be enough-choose a good water-based lubricant-Astroglid or K-Y gel that is for sensitive skin and unscented. for that special time. Staying sexually active when possible will help preserve the vaginal tissue. The old saying 'if you don't use it, you loose it' is true. Those are doctor's words not mine. Add gentle exercises to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles when you're able. Yoga has saved me. I know it sounds like I obsess over this product but after being removed from hormones in 2000, having a stroke and plunging back into menopause before cancer, I didn't think things could get drier. Wrong. Femara arrived. Thank God for it but I'm determined not to loose the bond of intimacy with my husband as I had for five years before I started using it. Hang in there and pamper yourself. :-D Jo

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    anonymous
    Survivor since 2012
    Does that contain estrogen? I cannot use it if it does
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      anonymous
      Survivor since 2012

      No it doesn't. That's why my gyn recommended it to me years ago.

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      anonymous
      Survivor since 2012

      No Estrogen!! :-D

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    anonymous
    Survivor since 2009
    We used a condom and ky/ vasoline lubricant at first, till we developed our"new" comfy zone. The condom seemed to lesson on any friction due to dryness. Just keep experimenting. As mentioned above the chemo nurses are full of helpful advise. Good luck.
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