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My sister has been diagnosed with stage 2 cancer. She had a double mastectomy and this Friday she is starting her chemo for 6 months. My question how can I show my support? I want to be there for her and I want her to know that I love her.

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Learning About Breast Cancer over 7 years
 
  • Kim Flackey Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 1 Patient
    God bless you for being such a wonderful sister!!!! When I was diagnosed, my sister said I deserved cancer, so you are already ahead of the game by asking what you can do. Lucky for me I have a wonderful support group with my husband, 2 daughters, and my friends. I had one friend that sent me a card each week until all my treatments were done. Also, there's a group called "Cleaning for a Reason" and if they are in your area they will come clean her house once a month for free. Just be there for her. Watch movies, cuddle, hold her when she cries, and SHE WILL SURVIVE!!!!!!! Just knowing you are there for her will be a huge factor in her recovery. I will keep you and your sister in my prayers. Be blessed nad be a blessing. Love Kim
    over 7 years Comment Flag
  • Joanne Uppendahl Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2011
    Your post shows your love for your sister! I agree with Isabel's answer, and would add a bit, probably already something you're doing and will do. She's going to need a lot of practical help with tasks like cleaning, cooking, shopping and phone calls. I didn't ask for any help and so it was difficult to do these things. Thankfully my husband pitched in as best he could. Another way to show support is with humor and thoughtful surprises. One friend made a banner for me for the day I finished part of my treatment. That lifted my droopy spirits enormously. Don't forget that you'll need support, too, as you help your sister go through her treatment. My very best thoughts and prayers.
    over 7 years Comment Flag
  • Isabel Souchet Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2010
    I think it's very important for loved ones to be available to take someone for their chemo treatments, stay there if you can. Spend time trying to help her feel comfortable, bring her plenty to drink, keep her company. Chemo can be hard for some people and it's scary to feel sick. Do some research on chemotherapy n side effects, so you can help out. Very nice of you to be so concerned
    over 7 years Comment Flag
  • KIM MILLS Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 2B Patient
    I agree with everything everyone has said so far, especially the chocolate part :) Just being there, available to listen or help out is the most important part. It really helped me, knowing my friends and family were there for me.
    over 7 years Comment Flag
  • Pat Seyffert Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    Chemo made me tired, Although I was able to work thru all of my treatments, I did get VERY tired on the 3rd day following treatments. One of my friends kept me supplied with little containers of meatballs that I put in my freezer.......and on my "tired" days, I could just pop those meatballs (too tired to cook any spaghett) out of the freezer and pop them into the microwave. Sounds like such a little thing but let me tell you, my wonderful friend and those meatballs were lifesavers! Doesn't have to be meatballs ....... just has to be something in small containers that are easy to prepare.
    over 7 years Comment Flag
  • Debbie Carss Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    As above don't for get to have laughter and lots of hugs because sometime it is nice not to think about what is happening as my little sister once told me. she has since pass away so make every minute count and just be there for her. There is no bad day there is only good days and better days. All my thoughts are with you.
    over 7 years Comment Flag
  • Delicia matthews Profile
    anonymous
    Patient
    For me, having a different family member talking and catching up on their lives while I was taking chemo meant so much....I was so focused on them that I hadn't noticed when my meds were complete....so having them there meant a lot.
    over 7 years Comment Flag
  • Mary Chase Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    I happened to have a very bad reaction to my chemo which is unusual but as a result the side effects were magnified and.i couldn't do anything except lie on the couch. What helped me was phone calls and emails from family and friends, cards, any little thing that you can think of! One friend brought me little containers of indifferent types of chocolate ice cream when I happened to mention that chocolate ice cream was one thing that tasted good to me. She will most likely have taste changes and then it's often hard to find things you like. Find out what tastes good to her and bring those things. It might be something different from weeke to week. Go with her to appts if you can and take notes. Take her to a fun movie or bring a DVD over to watch with her. Go with her to shop for scarves or hats. Go over to her house and clean the bathroom, dust or vacuum. Anything is helpful and greatly appreciated! Best wishes to you both! Mary
    over 7 years Comment Flag
  • Sarah Covell Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    I too was diagnosed with Stage 2 BC, had a double mastectomy, and am just about to have my final chemo treatment! I had to take leave of absence from work due to neutropenia, so I found myself home alone alot! I have one friend who sent me a funny card about three days after each chemo treatment, when she knew I'd be feeling my yuckiest. She also offered to drive me places (I was pretty wobbly and tired and often didn't trust myself to drive) just to get me out of the house. She also would offer to stop at the store to pick up anything I needed (seems like I was ALWAYS running out of fruit juices and I would have weird food cravings). But the best thing anyone can do is just LISTEN. We need to talk about what we're experiencing, how we feel, what the doctor said, what we read on the Internet, our fears, our hopes, our worries, etc., etc., etc. We can get repetitive so we need people around us who are patient and don't mind hearing it for the fifth or sixth time! ;-)) Oh, and bring her chocolate...it's about the only thing that tastes good throughout the entire chemo cycle!
    over 7 years Comment Flag
  • Wendy Ann Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    My sister was diagnosed with breast cancer 6 days ago. We have been on the roller coaster of emotions. As a family, they all look to me to be the glue of our family. I don't always know how to help but reading your comments today as I sit waiting for her MRI to complete has helped. Thank you! I hope to continue reading through all the love and support you all post!!!!
    about 2 years Comment Flag

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