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My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer a few days ago. I am terrified. I don't know much, just that they found cancer at her mammogram, but it looks like it is contained. Can someone tell me what to expect for treatment?

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    anonymous
    Survivor since 2013
    Everyone's cancer is unique to them so a treatment plan will be based on her case and her case only. That being said it may include surgery, chemo, radiation, and perhaps a hormone blocking pill. She may have some of these or all of these but most likely a combo. of them. She will be OK and she's in my prayers.
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    • Marissa Gorenflo Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Thank you. I know they will be performing surgery to remove the cancer. I'm just scared and don't know where to turn. It's breaking her heart too.

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    • Merri Sedgwick Profile
      anonymous
      stage_1 Patient

      Hi Marissa. You don’t state how old you are, so this is a general statement. If you’re in high school, I suggest talking to the school nurse, a guidance counselor or the school’s social worker. If you’re older and in college, there’s probably a...

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      Hi Marissa. You don’t state how old you are, so this is a general statement. If you’re in high school, I suggest talking to the school nurse, a guidance counselor or the school’s social worker. If you’re older and in college, there’s probably a counseling center where you can talk to someone. There will be a nurse navigator as part of your mom’s team who will be there to help guide her and you. There may also be a social worker assigned to her. So there is help there. If you can, go with her to her appointments and take notes. Make sure you ask questions, too. I was more scared for my daughter (she’s 28) than I was for me, so she asked questions of the breast surgeon. That was extremely helpful in alleviating my fears of what my diagnosis means for her and her future. Finally, as a mom talking, it’s ok to be scared. I know it’s hard to imagine, but that fear does dissipate little by little. Just be there for her, but don’t forget to take care of yourself in the process. You and your mom are in my thoughts!

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    • Marissa Gorenflo Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Unfortunately I am an adult, so I don't have resources that children in school. I live and work 2 hours from her, so I don't have the flexibility to go to her appointments and ask questions either. Everything I read keeps scaring me, so I was just...

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      Unfortunately I am an adult, so I don't have resources that children in school. I live and work 2 hours from her, so I don't have the flexibility to go to her appointments and ask questions either. Everything I read keeps scaring me, so I was just hoping someone could let me know what they have gone through so I can have an idea of what to expect. Thank you.

      19 days Flag
    • Merri Sedgwick Profile
      anonymous
      stage_1 Patient

      Hi Marissa. Everything depends upon what the biopsy says. For me, I was stage 1, grade 1. I also had no nodal involvement, and I had clean margins. I chose a lumpectomy as my cancer was small and it was also self-contained. I had the surgery done...

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      Hi Marissa. Everything depends upon what the biopsy says. For me, I was stage 1, grade 1. I also had no nodal involvement, and I had clean margins. I chose a lumpectomy as my cancer was small and it was also self-contained. I had the surgery done on an outpatient basis; I was in at 7:30 AM and home by 5:30 PM. My doctor took one sentinel node; that’s the node closest to the tumor. As that was clean there was no need to take any nodes from the armpit area. I also had 16 radiation treatments and no chemo. The oncologist said that chemo was not warranted in my case. Your mom’s doctors will discuss that with her. I am taking an estrogen blocker as my tumor was hormone positive. Again, depending upon the biomarkers of her mass, she may or may not be given hormone treatments for 5-10 years. Where you live I imagine there is an office of the American Cancer Society. They have counselors who will meet with you in person or just talk to you on the phone. Please give that a try. Your mom’s doctor’s will talk to you as long as she gives permission. Is there an EAP (employee assistance program) where you work? They are very helpful as well. Just please keep in touch!

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    • Marissa Gorenflo Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      They seem to think that it's contained, and can just take it out. She will know the official plan of action Monday. Your story really really helps me. I just got engaged, and she told me the news so I knew why we couldn't get married this year...

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      They seem to think that it's contained, and can just take it out. She will know the official plan of action Monday. Your story really really helps me. I just got engaged, and she told me the news so I knew why we couldn't get married this year (she wants to give it her full attention, and wants to get over this hurdle first). This naturally makes me terrified because I want her there and can't help but be scared for me. I know she is strong, but cancer has taken strong people in my life and I just needed to hear a story of a person who has kicked it and know how they did it so I can have confidence that she can too. For that, I thank you for sharing your journey with me. It means more than you know.

      19 days Flag
    • Merri Sedgwick Profile
      anonymous
      stage_1 Patient

      Hi Marissa. Congrats on your engagement!!! There is an old Yiddish saying that roughly translates as “I’ll dance at your wedding.” Your mom will “dance at your wedding”, so plan on kicking off your heels, getting her on the dance floor, and having...

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      Hi Marissa. Congrats on your engagement!!! There is an old Yiddish saying that roughly translates as “I’ll dance at your wedding.” Your mom will “dance at your wedding”, so plan on kicking off your heels, getting her on the dance floor, and having one hell of a time!!!! Give her my best!!!

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    • Eva Hayward Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      My surgery was 2 weeks ago. Because I am 74 and have a BRCA2 test, I had bilateral mastectomy. I had negative nodes and will not have either radiation therapy, because all the cancer was removed, or chemotherapy, because it does not increase the...

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      My surgery was 2 weeks ago. Because I am 74 and have a BRCA2 test, I had bilateral mastectomy. I had negative nodes and will not have either radiation therapy, because all the cancer was removed, or chemotherapy, because it does not increase the chances of survival at my age. Your mother may be much younger than me, but as a postmenopausal woman she should think about bilateral mastectomy, as the risk of recurrence is higher as we age. My recovery from surgery has been very easy--took a 1-1/2 mile walk the day after surgery. I have no regrets about my decision for bilateral mastectomy.

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