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Conclusion

 
Conclusion

Chapter: 7 - Conclusion

Subchapter: 1 - Conclusion

The first step down this new road is learning about your diagnosis and treatment options, which you have done by watching Beyond the Shock®. Embarking on this journey requires you to not only be informed, but also to realize that you don’t have to face this alone.

Family, friends, and other breast cancer patients are your shield and safety net, carefully knit together to strengthen you. Alongside them, your triumphs over new hills will be celebrated; your struggles through new valleys endured. They can help you see past the shadows, reminding you that each step–each moment–is precious. Leaning on them for emotional and physical needs isn’t a sign of weakness, but rather a kind of healing for you and for them.

Beyond the Shock® is more than just videos; it is an online community of women around the world who are wrestling with similar emotions, questions, decisions, experiences, and fears.
You can ask questions and give answers. You can watch stories of hope and share your own.

Beyond the shock of breast cancer, there is still life.

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    My good friend has just been diagnosed with breast cancer. What can I do or say to help her through this?

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    over 6 years 4 answers
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    • Francine Williams Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Hello my name is Francine and I was where ur friend is now all I wanted to here was that my family/friends were goin to be there for me every step of the way !!Assure ur friend that GoD Makes no Mistakes and there's a million and one prayers goin her way!!Take care and remember to always smile...

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      Hello my name is Francine and I was where ur friend is now all I wanted to here was that my family/friends were goin to be there for me every step of the way !!Assure ur friend that GoD Makes no Mistakes and there's a million and one prayers goin her way!!Take care and remember to always smile that is one thing Cancer can't take from u

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    • Ali S Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2011

      Be there as often as you can. I remember it getting hard when ppl kept asking "how are you feeling?". Bc if I was honest I would have said I feel like crap, I'm scared, I feel sick, I'm afraid of dying, etc. So, get in the habit of saying: I hope you're feeling well today, or I was thinking of...

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      Be there as often as you can. I remember it getting hard when ppl kept asking "how are you feeling?". Bc if I was honest I would have said I feel like crap, I'm scared, I feel sick, I'm afraid of dying, etc. So, get in the habit of saying: I hope you're feeling well today, or I was thinking of you today. Also, don't say "let me know if there's something I can do" bc it puts the burden back on her and it's so hard to ask for help. Instead, ask when her appointments are and plan to go with her (if she has no one else that can go), stop by (call or text first) with a meal when she's sick from chemo and clean up a little while you're there. Bring funny movies or books ('the sh*t my dad says' is hilarious--someone gave it to me), bring gossip, distractions are good. Try not to probe by asking a ton of questions all the time, but let her know you're always there to listen. She'll start to open up when she wants. If she's sad, let her be. Be comforting but don't give advice. (like empathize and say you know it must be hard and scary, but don't say things like, look for the silver linking, or try to be positive...some days, she'll just be sad and angry will need a shoulder to cry on)

      When she's feeling well, keep her busy! If you aren't always free, create a calendar for friends/colleagues that can cook, visit, take her out, etc.

      If she plans on wearing a wig, offer to go with her to pick it out before her hair falls out. Then, when it starts to fall out, offer to shave it (my friend gave me a Mohawk).

      When her treatments are over, months from now, keep checking in...that's a tough time emotionally, even when hair starts to grow back. Breast cancer is life changing and we still think about it even post treatment.

      Of course, you can't do it all, but get your friends together to help with all of this.

      I've truly seen who my true friends are with how they've dealt with my diagnosis. I'm young(32), and I've read and agree that breast cancer is lonely for young women bc most of our peers have no idea what it's like. If your friend is young, help her check out programs for young women with BC

      best wishes

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    Is there a way to manage the shock I am having from the diagnosis of breast cancer a week ago?

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    almost 7 years 14 answers
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    • P C Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 0 Patient

      Hello,

      I am newly diagnosed with DCIS. I fully understand how you feel right about now. I put this situation into God's hands. I educated myself about my diagnosis and I feel much better than I did at first. Just take it one day at a time. Find people you can confide in too. Stay active...

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      Hello,

      I am newly diagnosed with DCIS. I fully understand how you feel right about now. I put this situation into God's hands. I educated myself about my diagnosis and I feel much better than I did at first. Just take it one day at a time. Find people you can confide in too. Stay active and I know this part is hard, but stay busy. I have found when I stay busy I do not think about it as much. My MRI and surgery is next week (just days away) then radiation treatments. The hardest part thus far for me is the waiting. If that is where you are, just hang on. We are all in this journey together. God be with you, P Carter

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    • Charlie Hansen Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      I can only tell you what we've been able to do. We cried a lot than figured we have to do this so we have become educated as much as we can. Talk about it to those close to you. For us, our faith plays a major role also. God bless you.

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  • renee  lorenz Profile

    My mother recently had breast cancer, am I at risk also?

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    about 7 years 4 answers
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    • Ryan Nez Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Probably not it doesn't hurt to get checked. My mon is suffering from a rare form of breast cancer called HR2

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    • Diane Lewey Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Has your mother been tested BRAC1 and BRAC2 mutation? The BRAC 1

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  • Betsy Chapin Profile

    I am struggling with how cancer consumes my everyday thoughts. This month is especially difficult when we are bombarded with pink everywhere. I finished treatment 7 months ago and I still have it on my mind everyday. When will it go away?

    Asked by anonymous

    Survivor since 2010
    almost 7 years 12 answers
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    • Diana Foster Payne Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 4 Patient

      Hi Betsy, unfortunately I can't answer that. I often wonder the same. Will it ever end? I am still in the middle of my treatments. I finished my last chemo just a few weeks ago and will have a double mastectomy in less than two weeks. Then finally radiation. And you're right...pink is everywhere...

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      Hi Betsy, unfortunately I can't answer that. I often wonder the same. Will it ever end? I am still in the middle of my treatments. I finished my last chemo just a few weeks ago and will have a double mastectomy in less than two weeks. Then finally radiation. And you're right...pink is everywhere this month. Of course you and I...and all the other women

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    • Betsy Chapin Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2010

      Thank you to each and every one of you for answering. You have really helped me become more optimistic about this and I know this all consuming breast cancer feeling shall pass. In most moments of the day, I am the happiest I have ever been in my life due to my cancer journey. Time shall heal and...

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      Thank you to each and every one of you for answering. You have really helped me become more optimistic about this and I know this all consuming breast cancer feeling shall pass. In most moments of the day, I am the happiest I have ever been in my life due to my cancer journey. Time shall heal and cancer will stay in the background of my life. Today is a good day!

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