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Conclusion

 
Conclusion

Chapter: 7 - Conclusion

Subchapter: 1 - Conclusion

The first step down this new road is learning about your diagnosis and treatment options, which you have done by watching Beyond the Shock®. Embarking on this journey requires you to not only be informed, but also to realize that you don’t have to face this alone.

Family, friends, and other breast cancer patients are your shield and safety net, carefully knit together to strengthen you. Alongside them, your triumphs over new hills will be celebrated; your struggles through new valleys endured. They can help you see past the shadows, reminding you that each step–each moment–is precious. Leaning on them for emotional and physical needs isn’t a sign of weakness, but rather a kind of healing for you and for them.

Beyond the Shock® is more than just videos; it is an online community of women around the world who are wrestling with similar emotions, questions, decisions, experiences, and fears.
You can ask questions and give answers. You can watch stories of hope and share your own.

Beyond the shock of breast cancer, there is still life.

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  • Kim Amelio Profile

    My mom just got diagnosed - I am so scared. She sees the surgeon on Monday to schedule a bilateral mastecomy. What should I expect and what can I do?

    Asked by anonymous

    Family Member or Loved One
    over 6 years 2 answers
    • Diana Foster Payne Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 4 Patient

      Hi Kim, I'm sorry to hear about your Mom. It's wonderful that she has a caring daughter like you! :). I just had my bilateral mastectomy on Oct. 24th and am still recovering. Usually the hospital stay is just overnight. She'll have 2 or more drains that will need to be emptied periodically and...

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      Hi Kim, I'm sorry to hear about your Mom. It's wonderful that she has a caring daughter like you! :). I just had my bilateral mastectomy on Oct. 24th and am still recovering. Usually the hospital stay is just overnight. She'll have 2 or more drains that will need to be emptied periodically and the fluid measured when she returns home. Her dr and/or nurses should explain the correct way to do this. You could help her with this. She won't be able to lift anything over 10 lbs or drive for a few weeks. Also taking a bath with the drains can be a little tricky at first and might need some help. I took a long shoestring and tied the drains up ( like a necklace). This kept my incisions dry and drains out of the way so I could bathe. If she has a recliner ....that would be a great help. She won't be able to lie on her side to sleep for awhile and my recliner was a lifesaver for me as far as being comfortable! If not....then several comfy pillows so she can prop herself up would be good as well. All those things will help her as well as helping her with meals. Emotionally it's difficult losing your breasts. It will be an adjustment for her. Give her lots of TLC. :). I'll say a prayer for your Mom and best wishes on Monday!!

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    • Anne Marie jacintho Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2003

      Good Morning Kim,
      Diana gave you such good tips and what to expect. Your mom is lucky to have you at her side to go through this together. I too have some information that may help you and your mom through the rough first stages of recovery....always remember that there is light at the end of...

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      Good Morning Kim,
      Diana gave you such good tips and what to expect. Your mom is lucky to have you at her side to go through this together. I too have some information that may help you and your mom through the rough first stages of recovery....always remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel....I have written my experience in a paper I have posted on line for other women to read. Our type of breast cancer maybe different along with our choices of treatment, but the more we share and the more we know the better it is for us to deal with the road ahead. You may access my story at http://home.roadrunner.com/~amj (In my story I take you from the initial abnormal mammogram, the biopsy, surgery and recovery period after my bilateral subcutaneous mastectomies. I also have a reflection of a year later)
      May God Bless

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  • Karen G Profile

    I am going in for my Oncoplasty surgery tomorrow. Please pray for me and wish me clear margins. This is my third surgery and my last try to keep my breast. If this doesn't work I will need a Mastectomy.

    Asked by anonymous

    Stage 2A Patient
    almost 6 years 13 answers
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      anonymous
      Survivor since 2012

      God bless and praying for you

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      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Surgery isn't easy but God willing you will go through this surgery and be much healthier in the end. You are in all of our prayers. Take care, jayme

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  • kate robinson Profile

    How do you live with the fear of reoccurence?

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    almost 7 years 2 answers
    • Betsy Chapin Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2010

      Try not to go there. You have so much life ahead of you. Live each day to its fullest. Don't let cancer take away anymore of your life.

      Comment
    • Cathy Wadkins Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Dear Kate,
      Your faith hold on to it and don't claim it, if you beleive god got you through this and you know god spared you give the lord thanks. I told my husband I'm at peace because he spared me and people will bring you down so fast. I had horrible things said to me but I know they have...

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      Dear Kate,
      Your faith hold on to it and don't claim it, if you beleive god got you through this and you know god spared you give the lord thanks. I told my husband I'm at peace because he spared me and people will bring you down so fast. I had horrible things said to me but I know they have little faith, I told my husband if my cancer ever come back and I knew I was going to die with it that I had come to the understanding that was the way god was going to take me home.So live your day to the fullest and be happy because we are here for now and it is gods will not ours

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  • Sam Alfaro Profile

    My mom just found out today that she has breast cancer. How can me and my family support her in every way possible?

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    almost 7 years 3 answers
    • Shelley Zipp Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Sam, I'm sorry about your mom. I too have been recent diagnosed with breast cancer. Although all breast cancers are not alike ( I had a lumptectomy and lymph nodes removed, 1 node cancerous, and the surgeon removed all of the cancer and still have to go through chemo), the diagnosis is still...

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      Sam, I'm sorry about your mom. I too have been recent diagnosed with breast cancer. Although all breast cancers are not alike ( I had a lumptectomy and lymph nodes removed, 1 node cancerous, and the surgeon removed all of the cancer and still have to go through chemo), the diagnosis is still shocking. Luckily, even if its Stage II, or a large tumor, lots of women have survived worse scenarios than mine over the past decade or so. Continue, like my family did for me, to give her TLC, support and prayers. Accompany her to her dr's appts. It helps to have another body or 2 present, be it either friend or relative to ask questions and take notes. Especially important to have someone there because all the information you get is very overwhelming, and you or someone else might think of questions your mom hasn't thought of. Having a positive attitude helps too! Best wishes to you and your family.

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    • Ali S Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2011

      Just be there...sometimes she will be in good spirits, sometimes she'll need to cry. When she does, she needs compassion, not advice (I.e. If she says she's scared, don't minimalize it by saying everything will be fine or to think positive b/c frankly, we don't want to think positively. ...

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      Just be there...sometimes she will be in good spirits, sometimes she'll need to cry. When she does, she needs compassion, not advice (I.e. If she says she's scared, don't minimalize it by saying everything will be fine or to think positive b/c frankly, we don't want to think positively. Instead, say something like, I'm sure this is scary for you and I'm here for you).

      Set up a plan for family members to go to all appointments with her. Help her tell people b/c that can be overwhelming. Cook, clean, do laundry. See if neighbors/friends can set up a calendar to prepare meals, visit.

      Take her out when she's feeling good so it's not always about the cancer--and make het laugh!

      It sounds like she has a strong support group with you and your family ... That is crucial. I'll be thinking of you

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