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Conclusion

 
Conclusion

Chapter: 7 - Conclusion

Subchapter: 1 - Conclusion

The first step down this new road is learning about your diagnosis and treatment options, which you have done by watching Beyond the Shock®. Embarking on this journey requires you to not only be informed, but also to realize that you don’t have to face this alone.

Family, friends, and other breast cancer patients are your shield and safety net, carefully knit together to strengthen you. Alongside them, your triumphs over new hills will be celebrated; your struggles through new valleys endured. They can help you see past the shadows, reminding you that each step–each moment–is precious. Leaning on them for emotional and physical needs isn’t a sign of weakness, but rather a kind of healing for you and for them.

Beyond the Shock® is more than just videos; it is an online community of women around the world who are wrestling with similar emotions, questions, decisions, experiences, and fears.
You can ask questions and give answers. You can watch stories of hope and share your own.

Beyond the shock of breast cancer, there is still life.

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    Since starting chemo treatment, my mom has been unbearable. Everything frustrates her to the point that she starts arguments. She pushes everyone away and doesn't respond to kind words, love or attention. When or will this ever end?

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    over 6 years 4 answers
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    • Diana Foster Payne Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 4 Patient

      I'm sorry to hear about your Mom. Having cancer is devastating not just for the patient but is hard on their family as well. I was diagnosed in May and I've gone through a wide range of emotions. I think the mental toll has been harder than the physical part. Shock, anger (why me), feeling...

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      I'm sorry to hear about your Mom. Having cancer is devastating not just for the patient but is hard on their family as well. I was diagnosed in May and I've gone through a wide range of emotions. I think the mental toll has been harder than the physical part. Shock, anger (why me), feeling helpless, afraid, & so much more. Is your Mom going to a support group or any type of counciling? It can make a world of difference just to be able to talk to someone else that can relate to what we're going through. That's been in our shoes. Depression is very common among cancer patients as well and she may need something to get her over the "hump". Breastcancer.org is a very good website that has discussion boards for women with breast cancer. You can also contact The American Cancer Society for resources such as support groups in her area. I know it's hard but try to be patient with your Mom and I pray that you'll both get through this trying time. Hugs and best wishes, Diana

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    • Surf  Momma Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Having someone tell you that you have cancer is the worst news that you could hear. Love your mom through this She feels awful on the inside and out. This will get better for everyone ....eventually. Trust me-spoken from a survivor

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  • Kim Amelio Profile

    My mom just got diagnosed - I am so scared. She sees the surgeon on Monday to schedule a bilateral mastecomy. What should I expect and what can I do?

    Asked by anonymous

    Family Member or Loved One
    over 6 years 2 answers
    • Diana Foster Payne Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 4 Patient

      Hi Kim, I'm sorry to hear about your Mom. It's wonderful that she has a caring daughter like you! :). I just had my bilateral mastectomy on Oct. 24th and am still recovering. Usually the hospital stay is just overnight. She'll have 2 or more drains that will need to be emptied periodically and...

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      Hi Kim, I'm sorry to hear about your Mom. It's wonderful that she has a caring daughter like you! :). I just had my bilateral mastectomy on Oct. 24th and am still recovering. Usually the hospital stay is just overnight. She'll have 2 or more drains that will need to be emptied periodically and the fluid measured when she returns home. Her dr and/or nurses should explain the correct way to do this. You could help her with this. She won't be able to lift anything over 10 lbs or drive for a few weeks. Also taking a bath with the drains can be a little tricky at first and might need some help. I took a long shoestring and tied the drains up ( like a necklace). This kept my incisions dry and drains out of the way so I could bathe. If she has a recliner ....that would be a great help. She won't be able to lie on her side to sleep for awhile and my recliner was a lifesaver for me as far as being comfortable! If not....then several comfy pillows so she can prop herself up would be good as well. All those things will help her as well as helping her with meals. Emotionally it's difficult losing your breasts. It will be an adjustment for her. Give her lots of TLC. :). I'll say a prayer for your Mom and best wishes on Monday!!

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    • Anne Marie jacintho Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2003

      Good Morning Kim,
      Diana gave you such good tips and what to expect. Your mom is lucky to have you at her side to go through this together. I too have some information that may help you and your mom through the rough first stages of recovery....always remember that there is light at the end of...

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      Good Morning Kim,
      Diana gave you such good tips and what to expect. Your mom is lucky to have you at her side to go through this together. I too have some information that may help you and your mom through the rough first stages of recovery....always remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel....I have written my experience in a paper I have posted on line for other women to read. Our type of breast cancer maybe different along with our choices of treatment, but the more we share and the more we know the better it is for us to deal with the road ahead. You may access my story at http://home.roadrunner.com/~amj (In my story I take you from the initial abnormal mammogram, the biopsy, surgery and recovery period after my bilateral subcutaneous mastectomies. I also have a reflection of a year later)
      May God Bless

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  • Betsy Chapin Profile

    I am struggling with how cancer consumes my everyday thoughts. This month is especially difficult when we are bombarded with pink everywhere. I finished treatment 7 months ago and I still have it on my mind everyday. When will it go away?

    Asked by anonymous

    Survivor since 2010
    over 6 years 12 answers
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    • Diana Foster Payne Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 4 Patient

      Hi Betsy, unfortunately I can't answer that. I often wonder the same. Will it ever end? I am still in the middle of my treatments. I finished my last chemo just a few weeks ago and will have a double mastectomy in less than two weeks. Then finally radiation. And you're right...pink is everywhere...

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      Hi Betsy, unfortunately I can't answer that. I often wonder the same. Will it ever end? I am still in the middle of my treatments. I finished my last chemo just a few weeks ago and will have a double mastectomy in less than two weeks. Then finally radiation. And you're right...pink is everywhere this month. Of course you and I...and all the other women

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    • Betsy Chapin Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2010

      Thank you to each and every one of you for answering. You have really helped me become more optimistic about this and I know this all consuming breast cancer feeling shall pass. In most moments of the day, I am the happiest I have ever been in my life due to my cancer journey. Time shall heal and...

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      Thank you to each and every one of you for answering. You have really helped me become more optimistic about this and I know this all consuming breast cancer feeling shall pass. In most moments of the day, I am the happiest I have ever been in my life due to my cancer journey. Time shall heal and cancer will stay in the background of my life. Today is a good day!

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    Is there a way to manage the shock I am having from the diagnosis of breast cancer a week ago?

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    over 6 years 14 answers
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    • P C Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 0 Patient

      Hello,

      I am newly diagnosed with DCIS. I fully understand how you feel right about now. I put this situation into God's hands. I educated myself about my diagnosis and I feel much better than I did at first. Just take it one day at a time. Find people you can confide in too. Stay active...

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      Hello,

      I am newly diagnosed with DCIS. I fully understand how you feel right about now. I put this situation into God's hands. I educated myself about my diagnosis and I feel much better than I did at first. Just take it one day at a time. Find people you can confide in too. Stay active and I know this part is hard, but stay busy. I have found when I stay busy I do not think about it as much. My MRI and surgery is next week (just days away) then radiation treatments. The hardest part thus far for me is the waiting. If that is where you are, just hang on. We are all in this journey together. God be with you, P Carter

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    • Charlie Hansen Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      I can only tell you what we've been able to do. We cried a lot than figured we have to do this so we have become educated as much as we can. Talk about it to those close to you. For us, our faith plays a major role also. God bless you.

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